Claire McNairComment

when you're thinking of settling...

Claire McNairComment
when you're thinking of settling...
 

Ladies, beautiful daughters of God,

I just want to take a moment to encourage you, to let you know that you are worthy of great love.

I want to claireify, I learned many lessons from the relationships I had and the lack of love I accepted from my high school and early college relationships. God brings the good out of our messy mess. But I don't think that means we should stop striving for the greatest love, a big love.

So let me say first, if you're coming from where I'm coming from and you feel like you've made mistakes, you know you've made mistakes in past relationships, let go, shame is not something Dad wants us to feel. He calls us beloved on our best day. He calls us beloved on our worst day. We've all hurt and we've all made mistakes, but it's how we live after them. It's how we love after them.

I'm in college right now and one of my teachers said in class this past week, "When you're not sure what you're looking for, what you want out of a relationship, you're just free falling and you'll grab hold of the first person who looks at you."

Wow. Real talk am I right? As soon as she said that I felt like my whole high school relationship experience had been summarized.

When we don't know what we want, what we're worthy of, we'll accept anything. My advice: don't.

Lovely, know your worth. Know that you have already received the greatest love in the world. It is unconditional and it is perfect. Our Father loves us in every sin, every mistake, every moment of doubt. His love never leaves us. So when you're craving love and you feel lonely, remember whose you are.

Remember what He has called you:

CHOSEN (1 Peter 2:9)

HOLY and BELOVED (Colossians 3:12)

BEAUTIFUL (Song of Songs 4:7)

You'll be told and sometimes convinced that you aren't worthy, you aren't pretty enough, you're too damaged and broken. Well, to quote Dwight from The Office, "False." Let me tell you this you smart, confident, perfect lady: If you don't respect yourself, others won't either. If you don't respect yourself and know your worth, you'll settle.

I don't want this for you. I want every single happiness for you that I missed out on because I was walking in ignorance. I didn't know or accept that the relationships I was in weren't glorifying God. I just assumed that they were relationships that you have in high school that teach you something and you get through them and that's that. I'd like to tell you something that I probably wouldn't have listened to in earlier years either... Your relationships now have an effect on your future spouse.

I know it's hard to not be care free right now, but sometimes when we're care free about life we don't care for ourselves very well either. I know it's hard to not accept love that's lesser than what you deserve, especially when you just want someone to acknowledge you and tell you you're beautiful.

Here's the thing though, the love you allow into your life now has an effect on the great love you're given later. So, keep this in mind when you're thinking of settling and remember you have a Father who loves you more than any man ever could. You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are deserving of great love, my sweet.

I want you to take this next week and be intentional. Every morning when you wake up, you go brush your teeth and get ready to attack the day. Take about 30 seconds, look at the gorgeous awesome land mermaid in the mirror and say...

"I am beautiful. I am worthy. I know whose I am. I am a daughter of God. I am loved." {If you've seen the movie "The Help" feel free to throw in "You is kind. You is smart. You is important." I know I like to.}

I love you ya sweet thing you. I can't wait to talk with you again soon.

All my love,

Claire